The Power of Technology

A while back I contemplated writing a post about whether or not social media was ruining lives, but decided against it since it wasn’t exactly relevant to the general nature of the blog. At the time I felt like everything was so overly publicized and because they were protected behind the keyboard, people left their manners behind. Political debates, religious views and complaints from here to the moon & back – things most wouldn’t dare talk about in an open setting – are now broadcasted in a public forum (and usually with misspellings).
Technology may hinder face to face communication but it definitely makes it easier to stay in touch and keep relationships going strong. While I wish life was simple enough that I had time to see all the people that matter on a regular basis, it’s just not possible. 
Many argue that the internet makes it easier to say & do mean things to one another, but at the same time it makes it easier to do nice things too. As I have found recently people you’d never expect can reach out through the web to share compliments and nice thoughts. Sending a card can be cumbersome – you have go to the store, find the right card, buy a stamp and stick it in the mail. As a mom of two, a phone call takes time. After the day is complete and the kiddo’s are finally asleep I just want to sit down for a second, before I have to do laundry, cleanup and prep for the next day. Most of the time, that one second on the couch turns into me falling asleep and never getting the chance to pick up the phone at all.
Not only are friendships still alive, that might have otherwise died, but crazy enough I have new friendships with people I’ve never even met. When we first found out about Ella’s cleft we searched high and low to find resources to make us feel at ease. While we could find the basic information, we couldn’t find things that mattered. We wanted to talk to people who had gone through it. We wanted to see pictures of before & after to prepare ourselves for what to expect. The internet made it possible for us to make it happen on our own. In 2010 we took to Facebook and created a network for the Cleft Awareness Foundation, with hopes of building a local support group. Less than three years later we have a group of almost 3,000 people spanning throughout the entire world! 

Love it or hate it, technology has become the way of life. Like most things, it’s not perfect but for the most part I personally feel it’s bettered my life and am grateful for all the ways it’s help me stay connected and build relationships.

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Guilty as Charged

I wrote this post this morning, before I was called by daycare to inform me Will would need to be picked up. I’ve since been at the doctors office for 3 hours and counting. I guess it’s ironic that the chain of events seem to support everything I was writing in the first place–as parents we do whatever it takes to make sure our babies are happy & healthy and while its hard to take a step back, it’s also important to remember it can always be worse. After chest X-rays, nebulizers and labored breathing-it looks like the common cold, that was costing me sleep – has turned to pneumonia and RSV & likely earned us a hospital stay.
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The last two nights have been miserable. Poor little Will has been sick, coughing nonstop and so congested he can barely breath. His chest rattles all day long and his sleep schedule is no more. Our house is functioning on zero sleep and just trying to survive without killing each other. This morning as I was up trying to get Ella to speech by 7:30 a.m. I thought, man this sucks!

Will is never hard. He’s always happy, eats like a champ and sleeps for 12 hours straight. It’s not sucky. On the other hand, when Ella was a baby it was hard & sucky! I’m not sure if all of our struggles were due to her cleft lip & palate or if it was because she is a pistol, but nonetheless it wasn’t easy. On top of surgeries, she cried all day long and hated sleeping.

As first time parents we were so overwhelmed that other challenging things most parents experience went unnoticed. If she had a cough, it was no big deal. Dry skin, constipation, diaper choice? Who cares! We were just lucky she was alive.

A friend of mine has a child born with spina bifida and while a cleft is not nearly as serious, it was nice to have a mom who could relate to raising a child who wasn’t “normal.” We used to share stories of “other” parents ridiculous complaints and laugh. One day a woman, we’ll call her Dorothy, went on and on about her child’s dry skin and how embarrassing it was to take them out in public. Embarrassing in public? I wanted to say, “imagine the stares at a child with a gaping hole in their face or one in a wheelchair!”

I tried to remind myself that we all have our own problems and if dry skin was the worst thing that happened to Dorothy, it just might seem terrible but regardless, choose your audience wisely.

And yet here I am, guilty as charged! A parent to a semi-normal (I’m convinced there is no such thing as normal) child, complaining and feeling sorry for myself because for two nights I haven’t gotten any sleep because he’s sick. I have had worse, I’ve dealt with more but because my current reality is much easier, these past two days seem like a big deal.

The fact is-no matter what your circumstances are-every parent wants their baby to be happy & healthy and when things go wrong, no matter how serious-it’s a big deal. We want things to be perfect, but that’s not life. At the end of the day, all you can do is what you think is best!

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SAHM

SAHM: Stay At Home Mom, more commonly known as the hardest job on earth! I have always had the utmost respect for these women and often wonder how they accomplish everything with kids at home; laundry, a clean house, art projects, baking, educational activities, etc. etc. etc.

This past Monday I got a taste of what it would be like if I didn’t drop my kiddo’s at daycare everyday. I have always said that I would kill myself, or my children and it was for the best that I went to work each day.

We started the day by creating our art/baking project – ice cream cupcakes. Whenever we bake I let Ella take control and the goodies are never intended for consumption, with the exception of me of course. I am never exempt – I always have to taste, she insists! They turned out pretty cute but unfortunately didn’t taste as cute as they looked. There was so much frosting and the consistency of the cone and the cupcake wasn’t my thing.

We then moved onto reading stories, coloring pictures and playing games. After that I successfully put them both down for a nap and proceeded to clean the house, do the dishes and prep for the next day. For a moment I thought to myself, maybe I could do this. Just maybe I could be a SAHM. Ella is a bit more self-sufficient now and has gotten past her absolutely rotten stage. Will is the best baby a mom could ask for. Maybe I could stay home with both of them. Then I stopped myself and remembered, it was only 1 DAY!

I love my children, they are my biggest priority. I love and cherish my time with them. However, I still believe that me going to work is the best thing for my family. It’s best to send my kids to daycare, where they learn so many things I could never teach them. They make friends. They socialize. They have field trips.

And more importantly, it’s best for me. Obviously work can sometimes be frustrating, but it challenges me every day. It forces me to learn new things and continuously grow. I love my work family. They are more than co-workers, they are my friends.

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Will.i.am.

Lately it seems I’m always posting things that require deep thought and over analysis, which usually revolves around Ella and somehow what’s going on with Will gets put on the back burner.

It’s pretty fitting I suppose, after all he’s kind of a second thought kid. I don’t mean that in a sense that he’s not as special as Ella, I just mean he’s perfectly content to wait around until we have the time to devote to him. He looks at us as if he’s saying, “you look like you have a lot going on, so I’ll be over here when you can get to me!” It’s pretty amazing. Maybe that’s what all second children are like, but nonetheless – we’re extremely grateful!

So an update on Will….
He’s 5 months old already and has earned the nickname, Moose. He’s huge! At our 4 month appointment in December he weighed almost 17 lbs. and was in the 76th percentile for height (26″ long). He has mastered rolling over and is working on sitting up on his own – which can be challenging with a head that size!

We started baby food and rice cereal, which has gone really well. He loves the fruit and tolerates all the veggies too. He’s such a little pig, that he practically dive bombs the spoon as I’m trying to feed him.

He began drooling pretty badly about a month ago and sure enough a little tooth is starting to make it’s way through on the bottom. If it weren’t for the drool and the way he aggressively shoves everything in his mouth, we may never have known he was teething though since it hasn’t seem to phase him.

He remains one of the most happy, smiling baby’s we have ever seen! He sleeps fantastically well, only getting up once per night usually – even if he has soaked his diaper full.

When Will first entered our lives I worried that he might be overshadowed by his sister, but those fears have since passed. He may have started out much quieter than Ella, but he has quickly caught up and is extremely talkative. He is constantly giggling, squealing, yelling, babbling and entertaining us all.

His sister loves him very much! She talks about how she can’t wait for him to get bigger so she can share her toys with him and is constantly giving him her toys when he shows the slightest bit of interest.

Will has been the best addition to our family and we are extremely blessed to have two beautiful children that fill our house full of so much love and entertainment. We have enjoyed watching Ella grow and can’t wait to see Will do the same!

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